As for going out with him and the girls, if this makes you feel akward, don't do it, it sounds akward, it would be akward, I don't know why the heck he is saying it's ok if you come along if he is bent on D... though for a while, when my ex left (he came back 8mths later) I'd invite him to go with the kids and me if were going out or had a kids event... those were the first months of separation... do you also post on 'we are separated'? At the time my ex also had retained an L and I bought my time DB'ing... are you still Db'ing or are you done?
I agree with taking picts of everything just in case.
About changing the locks, that is a funny one, my ex's L told him it was ok (he remarried to a crazy woman last year and is trying to D her now) but when he did she called the cops and they told him it was illegal for him to do that even if he was the owner and her name wasn't on the house! the told him to give her a key, he refused (might've helped that he was a cop also)/
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
