But.....I've held on. I've had no encouragment, so I don't know why. I've not had one "I miss you." There has been no wavering on his part. I've not really had anything to hold out hope for other than the fact that he cannot bring himself to move forward with the divorce that he wants, and the hope that some day he will again be the man I have loved
BTDT. I was in that limbo for a number of years, just like you. My H did everything to exclude me from his life except the legal part. I waited, and while I waited I kept my life moving forward, trying to leave room for him to join me.
My H snapped in 2003. In 2010 he finally moved back to our bed. In many ways he is back but he's still finding his way. We have a lot of things to work on yet. Why did I wait? maybe just too damm stubborn more than anything!! But I so loved H and the life we had, I wasn't ready to let it be history until H had the balls to put it there. He did not. And that tells me I didn't just imagine what we had in our good days.
What makes you wait? What keeps your from filing?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
