I agree- I feel the DB and 180 seem sort of "artificial", and it all does go against my natural instincts. My usual and natural instincts are to tell H to go to the warmer clime below, but I was already so full of anger in the M, (caused problems of course), that I do feel a 180 is best for me. I need to be calm, cool and focused.
I know doing the DB and 180, helps me cope and it helps ME look at things about MYSELF I need to change. THAT is always a positive thing no matter what happens. If H is happy "as is" then so be it. It is not my problem.
I may not bring up the phy R issue tomorrow. I agree with you that H may say I am "lying". I don't lie, but if I were H, I'd think it odd that for 3 months I never wanted anything phy and now I make the point I do. A physical hunger just gets buried under all the anger. It is still there nonetheless.
