Had to respond to a comment you made that women, when they want out of a R don't say what they really mean, such as" we don't love you , don't want anything to do with you". I only think people soften their words when they want to leave the door open for returning once they have had their fun.If an affair doesn't work out, then they didn't burn their bridges and can come slinking back.
Maybe it isn't the best approach is soften the wording and isn't 100% honest, but telling it straight up hurts the other person much more. I know this for a fact as my H was very blunt when he dropped the bomb 07/20/10. H said I don't love you, we aren't friends, as a couple we are dead, etc. Pretty tough words to hear.
I think people play way too many games as evidenced by a lot of posts.
