Beyond Depression..but still a losing battle?

[awest1217]

Good for you to go out and have H get upset. It is about time you think about yourself and not him because he doesn't think about you all the time.

Also glad you are going to paint S's room. It will be fun and it will help you to begin your life.

About the money, the way my L talked is that since we were separated for so long she would have a good arguments to not split any of the savings. The only problem you will have is if you have a retirement account he will be entitled to half of that, but really that is it. There is nothing else you really have that is joint so it should not be a problem, but if you are thinking about starting to save a bunch, I would consider possibly legally separating if you are worried, but if H keeps to his word, he should have a decision by the end of the year and you probably won't have too much saved by then so save anyway.

Enjoy the weekend!