Hi dday! Thanks so much for stopping by! I read your post today and felt badly you've been having a bit of a tough few days. Lots of conflicting emotions by the sounds of it? It must be difficult to stay positive, when you're hearing a lot of troubled marriage stories around you at work and home. Don't forget to have your date night with your wife; just keep your head down and focus on you, her, and your kids. The rest of it - it just doesn't matter.
In answer to your question, well let's see - I thought I was ready in late May or early June, I think, and made a post or two here. But I hadn't come to the point where I really felt compassion for my H's mistakes and issues that injured our M. I still felt SO resentful back then. I'm pretty sure it was you and CL that talked to me about the importance of being able to forgive, before you begin piecing.
I'm so glad you both told me about that - I think it set me on a good path. So I let it ride for a while, and while my H and I were on holidays, we talked and argued... alot. But it was good. We were able to begin voicing concerns about things we'd never really discussed in years. So, by the end of the holiday (end of June) I'd heard enough of his side of things that I was really able to feel compassion, forgiveness and understanding for him, his hurt and frustration. So I'd say, end of June is when I really started piecing.
(Sorry, long answer to a short question!)
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
Hi dday! Thanks so much for stopping by! I read your post today and felt badly you've been having a bit of a tough few days. Lots of conflicting emotions by the sounds of it? It must be difficult to stay positive, when you're hearing a lot of troubled marriage stories around you at work and home. Don't forget to have your date night with your wife; just keep your head down and focus on you, her, and your kids. The rest of it - it just doesn't matter.
