Listen I'm no expert, what I learned that worked well in my situation I learned from the great people on this site.
One of the best things that I learned for myself was being able to finally admit that I didn't know everything, I didn't know how to fix this problem (and many other similar problems) and that continuing to make the same mistakes and continuing to be unwilling to try new and unconventional things was just going to get me the same results that I had been receiving.
I now have a wife that apparently thinks our marriage was a good thing because it produced "many good things" and she is trying to plan a vacation for our entire family and wants us to go with the kids to where we had our honeymoon and thinks its a step in the right direction for us and our family.
That's a 180 for her, as for me, I'm off to a tanning bed right now, the last time we went to the dominican I burned quite a bit, my skin looked like the dark red color that decorates most of these pages, I need a decent base to be able to handle all that sun ;-)
