Thanks. Looking back, I've realized that the guy (not man) I was in late June is nowhere near the man I am now. About the only thing that I've kept is my hopeless romantic nature, and my kindness. Those I want to hang on to!
I hope my wife finds the strength and courage to overcome her own demons; when things were good, we were an unbeatable team. I'd love to find out how strong we could be if we can pull through this. I'd also love for us to be great parents, together. I know that I'm a good dad, and that she's a good mom, but together, it's something special. The girls have seen that in the last week, and aren't acting out as much.
I'm so glad my faith has come back. Losing your faith is almost as bad as losing your W, and I'm grateful. I don't feel so alone anymore, though I know that I'm the one who has to make strong/hard decisions.
I'm sorry for replying in a bad mood towards you. I disagree completely with your post, but I took it personally, and shouldn't have.
I don't think we see eye to eye very much, but one thing I've come to value in this forum is the wide variety of opinions, as well as the tremendous support.
Your strength and wisdom is very encouraging to me. W and I have also gone through all kind of hell during our R. Loved ones died, pets had to be put down, lawsuits that we had to fight off, stress from work, you name it.
But we always stayed strong and supported each other. There was never a moment that one of us would have let the other down.
That is why it is so shocking when "I Love you but..." happens. It makes no sense and you wake up to this nightmare thinking if your life was just a dream.
I think once you get into it, it will become something like the cigars are for some of the rest of us. Something to look forward to at night that you enjoy and find relaxing. It's a good way to GAL right there in your own house.
Besides, when "Pinhead" is mentioned in the same breath as Sallinger, Vonegut, Clancy and King, your money problems will be a distant memory.
Dreaming big and taking action will take your mind off W and M.
ADAPT. OVERCOME. IMPROVISE. -Tom Highway
Me: 43 W: 40 S12 & S9 Married 17yrs Together 20yrs
I've done a ton of writing for magazines in the last decade, so I know I can write the volume of words, but The Great American Novel is just so damn intimidating. Talking to my wife now is easier!
I won't belabor the point....OK, that was a load of BS. I plan on coming here every few days and pestering the crap outta ya until you either tell me you're writing or to leave you alone.
If you have published already, then you have more than a dream. It's a marketable skill. Pin, you have really come far and I'v read the posts you/ve made on other's threads (mine included). You are a big-hearted guy and have helped other people here. Think about those times. You were able to detach from your worries and it felt good to be doing something constructive. I know, because it's helped me to be able to do the same thing.
Sure it's intimidating to look at the mountain (the great American novel). So don't look at it. Just look at the path and keep moving onward.
There! That's all I'm going to say about it....today.
Much Love brother.
ADAPT. OVERCOME. IMPROVISE. -Tom Highway
Me: 43 W: 40 S12 & S9 Married 17yrs Together 20yrs
