Yes, we too were both guilty of not nourishing our M. I also give my H credit for doing something, even though he did it in a hurtful way and definitely could have handled that better. I've forgiven him because we were in a bad place. I "set him free" and accepted responsibility because the alternative (arguing, crying) did nothing. Then I became the person he originally wanted - which is who I really am.
Plants - farming. Maybe the key is to treat the M as a living thing and remember it does need nourishment and weeding everyday.
Sorry about the A. I do have a friend who's M survived one, but I have no idea how common that is.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
