The bottom line is actions, not feelings on the issue. That's the true test of maturity - which is what WAS's lack. What you do is more important than how you feel right now.
I see the same things. I even noticed it after the ILYBINILWY letter. I thought "If we can be so much more open and considerate now, we're halway ther to FIXING this mess" That was before I dicovered the A.
Originally Posted By: LRT
...every day I ask myself "what do you do to water your plant today?" This plant needs daily water or it shrivels and eventually dies. It took almost losing the M for me to get that..
I was guilty of this for a long time, too. As was she. Neither had the coping skills or thought to learn what was happening or what to do. Until lthe bomb dropped on me. Ironically, after all is said and done, I will owe my W gratitude as she at least DID SOMETHING (the bomb; NOT the A)to break the stalemate and get me on the road to recovery. It'll be too bad if we lose the M in the process.
I've posted something I read somewhere and it's close to what you say about the plant.
"Marriage is like farming. You start again every day."
