I just recently found out(slow learner - LOL) that clicking on a posters name that I could view ALL their posts. So you were the first person I went to read their original post.
If anyone needs inspiration and I mean FANTASTIC inspiration on how to conquer being a LBH/W, click on his name and go to the last page (261 or 265???) and start from the beginning.
There are a lot of experienced people and great posters, but for my situation, Robx posts have been the most inspirational to me and will also say that Sandi2's - woman's POV - is priceless (No disrespect to the others). Although everyone's sitches can be similar or different, there is always a WAY to become a better person and to make the most of a difficult situation. Now, I see that it truly doesn't matter who is at fault anymore and what has been done in the past is DONE. You have the power to control your present and your future to MOVE forward and be happy. If you want to wallow, it's going to get you nowhere and fast.
If you have done things wrong and you know it, then you owe it to yourself to fix what you did wrong by becoming a better person and a happy one at that. You can't dwell on fixing the past, but you can fix your future.
As for me changing my past ways, the 3 most important ones are: I have quit drinking, have become more involved in my faith, and I'm quitting smoking. These alone have made me feel so much better about myself. Now I'm getting in the habit of going to the gym and trying to work on eating better. I'm taking this one day at a time.
This has been absolutely the hardest thing I have EVER had to do in my life and I could not continue my progress without - 1) The Bible/God 2) Robx's inspiration 3) Developing Detachment - Livestrong website. 4) Setting them Free post
Do not get me wrong...I love my wife and will always love her, but the point comes where you just have to stop being a doormat and be strong. You will go NO WHERE until you realize this. It's amazing to see the tiniest results in myself just from the changes I have made. I can't say my wife has noticed them all and probably has no clue about my mindset, but what's really nice is the fact that I'm starting not to care what she thinks. Yes, I miss her, but I also see what lies ahead and I'm excited. It's FINALLY getting better.
Just wanted to post this so you all can benefit from the upbuilding reading materials that have helped me and I hope they help every last one of you.
