OH and ya its good to hear your Son has confirmed the abuse angle we were takling about earlier.. I suspect your Daughter would say something similar...
It IS abusive to constantly hold the threat of abandonment over your families head...
I don't think WH views it as a threat as much as him just "saying how he feels"... But he has to realize he has commitments and kids so there are more impotant things on his plate than simply how he feels right now...
I think you need to set a boundary that you will not allow talk of leaving in the home. If he's going to leave he needs to do it or participate in the marriage... But that may just tip the scales..
You guys will have to decide if you want to subject yourselves to the abuse in hopes that a positive atmoshphere and your hard work as a family will gradually improve his attitude OR if you want to send him away until he realizes what he's missing to protect the family.
Wow, that was all in one sentence! lol
But a GREAT sentence! LOL. I was responding the same time you were writing - about just that: trying to decide my stance.
I KNOW D18 would feel the same way. She's as much said so already just not in the same words. It hit me yesterday how much I resent H doing all of this right now and being so self-centered. How awful is it to look at my D going away to college in just a few weeks and we haven't even gotten to focus on her AT ALL. Everything this summer has been about H and the "marital issues" when it should be a time to spend with my daughter. Yes, I realize that is all in attitude and I should've done a better job separating myself out of that. I've tried to make sure to do the right things by her. It's just not the scenerio I would've liked to have seen with our oldest child leaving for school.
