Okay. Then, I have home work for you over the weekend:
Change the way you communicate.
I can not tell you how important effective communication is! And that's coming for a situation where (x)W and I talked everything out. He's still clamed up in his little world. It was not by any means easy fo r(x)W to come out with everything I assure you that. But, the way I would respond to her made a HUGE difference in making her more comfortable to do so. Did I like some of the things she had to say? No. But at least I made an enviornment for her where she was comfortable to be.
I'm sorry, hon, but the kind of responses I see you offer up to him, doesn't scream "I've changed the things about me that made you want to go out and do those things", "I'm accepting (my fualts and yours", and "I want to use our past mistakes to make our future better, no matter which way it goes". That type of response you offered up, might just as well push him out the door again further.
That's just my observation.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
