Detaching is a process that takes time, and lord knows I'm not always there either. Read the resources, GAL, work on your own self esteem and sense of self worth. Read what you can about internal validation, detachement, self esteem, mutuality, unconditional love .... I really like the live strong site.
And ... the hard part. Make the choice. Don't be a victim of someone elses behaviour. You can make choices. If you haven't read Laura Munson's book yet I highly recommend it.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc