I am sure they are. I know others who have done it, too, and express much of the same depression. To my W I am not part of her solution. She wants out and she wants to discover herself alone. I don't know what's going to happen when she wakes up and I am not there, and the kids make demands she can't satisfy because I am not there and she perhaps realizes that "finding herself" has become twice as hard.
She had to do this alone. I will never understand why destroying her family is a good solution for her, but it might be the only way she comes to any kind of realization.
