Irish, It's hard to emotionally detach. I've never been able to do it. There are people on this site who can tell you how, so I hope they chime in. Eric, Grit, PEI, Snodderly, Puppy..can you guys give her a hand? I could use some tips in that area too. GAL doesn't seem to stop the thoughts of our spouses and the wanting. All the wanting...