For me, it's not about DBing "fixing" H but DBing causing H to want to fix himself, if that makes sense.
yes, it does. you can't change someone. but it can motivate them to make the changes for him/herself.
i'd feel sad if he made changes and someone else ends up spending the rest of their lives with the new him.
the courts view it as any debt acquired during marriage is yours to share. just like wealth. had he made money instead of lose it, i would be entitled. so you can't just have the good and not the bad.
allen_a .. on the responsibility part. lack of responsibility runs in the family. his father lost his son's money but does not feel responsible for it. he chalks it up to "our family just can never catch a break".
