IN CR last night, we talked about how men have no clue when it comes to intimacy. Not just sex but all the affection and love women need to feel fulfilled. I think a lot of WAW leave for the reason I am writing about. NEGLECT. Men often overlook it, and women often have an issue with telling their spouse they feel this way. Women get the idea that men should know, well we dont. Women feel that men should pick up on their hints and small leads that show they need more affection. Well obvioulsy we dont.
As far as my situation TH, WHen I would really have no interest in sex for a perid of time, my W felt I didnt want her, she did not feel wanted or needed. I explain to her that when I am stressed I have no interest. I have also dealt with low testosterone levels, which my W new about, and the Dr. said if your levels are as low as they have been no wonder you have no interest. I am also not a touchy feely guy, the W always wanted me to sit next to her during a movie or just watching TV. I would sit by myself, I am a personal space guy and dont like being close to anyone for very long.
These were all issues during our first S, I worked on them and slid back. THe issue is I can look back now and say "jesus why didnt I see myself sliding back" but at the time I just went along as if nothing has changed.
The W texted me and asked what time I dropped D off at daycare. responded and she replied with a K. I then simply wrote " I am working on a few things but since you have a busy day, if there is anything you need me to do, let me know. ANother way of me offering help for things, but if she doesnt respond i will leave it alone.
