And I'd like some assistance coming up with a new word. The debate I have seen several times now (and causes semantic argument and helps no one) is the black and white definitions of love. It's the view they are the opposites and necessarily mean the extreme. i.e. Conditional-cause and effect; X brings Y; immediate gratification; selfish Unconditional-doormat; fruitless; respect destroying; turn the other cheek forever
Where is the REAL one? Neither is healthy in my view. What should we call the love where we commit and are willing to LOVE without "constant, instantaneous" response but don't go on forever without "any positive response"?
In animal behaviour, there are walls of studies done on the most 'addictive, repetitive' (lousy word choices. I know) ways to get the desired response in an animal. And it involves how a behaviour is "reinforced"
The MOST profound way to get the DESIRED response is though "inconsistent reinforcement"
In essence, non-predictability creates the most constant behaviour. If the bhvr is rewarded EVERY TIME, the subject ONLY does it when they want something. If the reward NEVER HAPPENS, the behaviour will eventaully cease as well.
So you MUST get something but not EVERY TIME.
And the new word is >>>>>>>________ Love Rewarded? Rewarding? (Everybody will have their own "line" of acceptable) Reinforced?
OK. So I went WAY OFF the original topics but I thought I'd throw it out there.
Something to think about. But not debate, please. I want to stay on task. Thanks
