if the issues are his and he's being immature, is this beyond db can fix?
like sunnyd, i wouldn't feel right dating. that would make me the cheater.
all i want to show my h is that he trust me before, he can trust me again. i'm still looking out for his best interest. yes, i accept his faults. i accept the slow emotional development, but i was always the friend he could rely on. whenever he needed me, i would come through. it didn't bother me that i made the decisions in the house. it was my strength so that was my contribution to the marriage. you can't have two chiefs who butt heads all the time.
i wanted what was best for us. i knew what it took to make a household run smoothly, i managed what finances i had access to and made sure we were okay, i can't control his father's access to his investment account. that's his play money .. he could do whatever he wanted with it. it didn't bother me as long as it didn't have a negative impact to my relationship with my h. and it didn't. despite the bad investments, we weren't plagued with money problems.
it wasn't until now that you realize the negative impact it will have on me. his father lost h's money and now i am responsible for sharing that debt? he wants to d me and stick me with half of his debt. this i have a problem with. when we were married, we were a team. for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer. if he is disbanding this team, why should i be responsible for sharing this debt that i didn't incur? maybe i should have put my foot down on his father's stupid trades because now, i am on the hook for it.
it sucks. but you can't change the cards you're dealt but how you play them is up to you.
