I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Ok about money....I USED to think it didn't matter; that he could make less than me....as long as we loved each other, right? BUT

Then I realized I have these beliefs/ideas I don't know what you call them around money.

like

1)independence--I am grateful for my degree, and my job, so that I won't have to "ask" my H for money and I get a say in financial stuff and, well look what happened, I have a way to support myself.

2)drive, ambition--FOR ME, if a man makes less than me,(again, I am a teacher, folks) he better be doing something like starting his own business, writing the great American Novel, or something that isn't just him being satisfied with his low paying job. This is for me, others may want that man...I won't be able to respect him. OH THAT SOUNDS BAD! But I think it is the deep, dark truth! FOR ME!

3)responsibility--if a man (or woman) can manage their money, be credit card debt free and afford to go out, that shows me he is responsible, BUT

4)no tightwads...IF there is money in savings and money left after the bills, come on- it is fine to rent a cabin at the beach or something!

5)money= freedom....it doesn't buy you happiness, but it does give you OPTIONS in life!