Why do you want to stay married to someone you don't respect?
Not meant as a cruel comment, but an honest one. If you didn't care enough about her feelings not to cheat on her, why do you think she would want to stay with someone who does not care about her.
The first step in the process is being honest with yourself. Why do you not like the person you are married to?
Honestly it was not about her only my selfish own. I got a ton of excuses but what I found out was that all I was thinking about was me and my ego. I wanted attention when I should have been giving it to someone else.
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
she has asked i leave the house for awhile, should I? 4months or so, but will not committ to going to MC or retrouvaille...etc
In your case, I think it would be appropriate for you to agree to live elsewhere for a while. You are the one who cheated, more than once. Show her respect and consideration by allowing her to remain in the home.
BTW, you said that you got in some sort of legal trouble related to your chat activities. What's that about?
Why do you want to stay married to someone you don't respect?
. . .
Why do you not like the person you are married to?
knitted, I don't recall him saying that he did not respect or like his wife. I think you sometimes attribute meanings to other people's behavior which are not true for them.
If you do, half her work will be done and she will file anyway. You have gone to counseling for a long time now, so it seems to me that your W is unable/unwilling to get past your A's.
Your actions are obviously deal breakers for her, and no one can blame her. But the thing is, she should have left long before now.
Do not move out. If she wants space, give it to her.........elsewhere.
Have you ever asked her what she needs from you to heal?
This.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
I'm not sure. Does asking what she want me to do? The same thing? You question seems better.
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
she still is asking for me to move out, saying that i'm still not giving her what she wants.
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
Confused..... The last 2 yrs we have beeen together and she held alot of anger and resentment. She never told me. Now she wants me to move out give her space. I've asked we got to a retrovuialle weekend. She's unsure doesn't know if wants to work on the M. Should I just say go file for D? Most of the WAW and WAH usually are the ones moving. I had the affair, but want to work on M. Any thoughts?
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
Afraid that if I try the LRT that it will push her away for good
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
