21 years of marriage hanging by a thread

[Chuck66]

W grabs laptop and says she has to go to work yesterday. Leaves at 7 pm before the kids are even in bed. Comes home at 10:30 pm without the laptop. Have no idea what that is about.

She also knows I am going out with friends (most who she does not know) and said she will be going out from 2:15-7:30pm on Sat and asked if I could watch the kids.

I initiated a short R conversation today. I just said, "I still love you but I cannot be with someone who doesn't want to be with me." She asked, Where is that coming from?" I said, "We don't talk much and another day might pass before we get to say anything that's all." She said, "I still love you." I said, Because I can't be with someone who doesn't want (she never said she doesn't want to be with me, just she can't decide) to be with me then is is what it is." She said, "OK." So we are both pressing on with the D I guess.