cheated on, lied to, and now I am moving on

[awest1217]

Thanks Donna. I have taken a ton of classes on child psychology because I have always thought it helps me when it comes to teaching, and it has, but it is also helping me with S. For example, I know that H is more demanding of S than I am and doesn't take him anywhere in public because he wants S to be perfect. I on the other hand have given S some freedom and treat him with respect. I have let S walk in the mall without holding my hand since he was 18 months old. IF he gets too far, I just say S too far or S stop please, and he does. (this is all odd because H's biggest complaint is I was too controlling, funny how I am trusting when the person deserves the trust). He knows to hold hands when there are cars around or if there are a lot of people (for example when we went to the fair) he had to hold my hand, but otherwise he gets some freedom.

I also try to lead by example like when I am asking S things to say please and thank you. I am working on S using manners so I use them as well.

I know I am not the perfect parent because I yell way too much as S, but I agree with you Donna, he acts out with me because he knows I will always be here. When H would keep going in and out or H would not show up last year for a visit, S would cry and I would tell him that mommy will never leave I will always be around or I would say mommy always comes back. It makes me feel better knowing it is because he trusts me that he can do that, however it is still so hard. He loves his dad and enjoys spending the time with him (S asks me to come and when I say do you want me to he always says no so I know he wants that sole daddy/S time), but I know it is hard on S. I try to help S by being happy when he leaves and happy when he comes home. Plus I try to talk to him about what he did and get excited with him, but S doesn't really talk about his time with H, which is also odd for him.

Anyway we had an issue at bedtime, but I got S to sleep in his own bed. Today the beach!

Tomorrow is S's best friend's b-day party. Sunday is church. This week has flown by.