Anyone else stuck in this "I need to move on, but this wasn't what I wanted and now *I'm* the one leaving b/c I can't stand the limbo anymore"?? _________________________
Nikita - yes, yes, yes.
This what I tell myself:
I don't want to be the one to leave, this is not what I wanted, but neither do I want to be in a marriage where my husband doesn't want me. What choice do I have?
For me, it has just gotten to the point where it is too painful to stay together. But I have been at this a long time, 2 years and 3 months, and it has taken me this long to get to this point, where I really feel I am able to let go. My heart has fought my head, kicking and screaming for 27 months . Not sure how long you have been dealing with your situation.
OMG Improved, THIS:
As I worte elsewhere recently, there are two types of people in this world the WAS and the LBS. LBS are better off with the LBS type of people and WAS...well they're better off alone.
Awesome. Perfect. So true.
Nikita, I have a 9 and a half year old. He was 7 when we told him that Daddy was moving out because "mom and dad weren't getting along." He didn't buy it because we never fought. Since then, son and I have had countless conversations about "Why doesn't Daddy love you the right way?" My son asks a lot of questions and I answered him as truthfully and honestly as I could but as gently as I could. He's also old enough that he can now see that "daddy doesn't act like he loves mommy." I think he gets it a little, although it is not what he wants either. Your child is much younger and probably won't understand at all. That can be better in some ways and worse in some ways I think.
Sorry to jump in here since I don't actively post on the board. Hugs to you. There are so many people here who know what you are going through.
