Nothing fits

[AliSuddenly]

Hey mish, my gut feeling is he doesnt really want to leave you and Marc and doesnt really want to go to California, asking you to get him a ticket is a cry for help, in that he is desperate.

Maybe its the guilt ? Maybe its because his life fell apart so much the past few years? Maybe becuase the broom is contacting him and guilting him also, who knows?

Men rarely want to go to Counselling so I'm not surprised he doesnt want to. I saw the MASSIVE difference AD's made to my H though, without which I doubt we would be M now. The right AD that is and Michelle is right, herbal remedies wont cut it.

I think you could 'listen and validate' (yawn!) .. Gabe I see you are in turmoil and I agree you are and clearly you arent able to give anything to me and Marc right now, so quit expecting to ..you need to get yourself healthy. I really need you to take responsibility for your health and as hard as it is, face up to the fact you need a bit of help. You are not a failure or weak if you do that, it is the strong thing to do to take yourself to the doctor and get some meds to get you through this patch in your life. Imagine how much better you would feel if you get the right AD... ? Or.. take some time for himself, resume a hobby/sport he enjoyed ??

Hugs Mish, this is another blip I think (a large one!) xxx