I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Ok just finished talking...wow I learned so much from DBing and MWD! Well, weird as it sounds, it was a discussion mostly centered around his relationship with his exG.He is going to talk to her next week to see where they stand.

He said he called because he wanted to explain why he backed out...(my gut also says something else) but we talked for another 90 minutes all about things like co-dependency and what is important in a relationship, etc. Still, mostly about his relationship with her

I shared some OBJECTIVE (good for me!) opinions like:

1)4 months is TOO SHORT to expect someone with a lifetime of anger issues to change-he thinks she should be an improved version when they talk next week (WHAT???!!! after FOUR months????)

2)ACTIONS speak louder...she can talk all she wants but he won't know until they resume things between them to see if she is practicing what she preaches. So he needs to be WARY.

3)He has every right to expect her to comply with his requests (trust me, folks) and he is worthy of that

4)She thinks he will always be there, because her stuff is still at his house, he is still talking to her family and telling them how he is standing by her if she gets control over her anger management issues...he will need to 100% ready to walk away from the "messed up" version of her (but willing to take back the improved version)

5)He is an excellent catch and will be snatched up in no time but that she is holding on to him still because he is allowing it yet she KNOWS he is an excellent catch!

6)It may take him walking away completely, cutting off all contact with her family, moving her stuff out for her to get it

Gee, was I talking about myself here? I AM A SLOW LEARNER!