Hi Eric Thanks for posting As far as detachment, I've detached from him in a sense that I dont get overreact emotionally in my head anymore to the things that he's doing without me, I've 'let him go' or 'dropped the rope', and have lowered my expectations to nothing, I'm observing mostly, and getting excited or dissapointed at little steps(although not disabilitatingly so, just disheartened a bit), but my emotions are sooo nicely under control that I feel quite proud of myself for that!! Pat self on back, pat pat pat
1) Do you work? - yes! I am a graphic designer, I work from home full time, its my favourite thing in the world, and I'm so glad i do it day to day! I make good money- not a fortune, but more than average,and enough for me, so am happy there!
2) What goal do you have for YOU and your kids that DO NOT involve your H? - I have lots of goals for me personally, saving up for a telescope has been a lifelong dream, getting better at squash which I've always loved but stopped when S was born, taking astrology course,seeing my family in another town more often with S- travel the world -also requires saving. Alot requires money, so I'm saving up as I go thumbs up for goals
3) What are you doing to keep your sanity i.e. GALing? - I visit my best friend everyday with my S, we meet old friends during the week for lunch, and go out every so often, I'm playing squash, and getting fit at gym with my gym lady friend who has kids too, I've reconnected with an old school friend and we have play dates...so thumbs up for GAling...BUT, I've never been a social butterfly, so I'm not going wild, just increasing my social outgoings to a level that I would have been comfortable with before I was married/ in a relationship
4) Is OP involved? - I really dont know, theres no way I'd know unless I hired an investigator, but I'm not that type, if he is seing someone else I'll find out eventually anyway. I try not to be naive about it, but just dont know, his secretary is very fliratious and young and sexy, and there have been red flags, so maybe her, but no proof as of yet.
5) What DO YOU want in your life? I'm a family/close relationship type of person, if I have my creative work, my hobbies and my family, I'm ok, but I would like a companion through life to share it with. I know now that I dont NEED one, just would reaaaly like one, and will wait and am prepared to wait for it, cause i know it'll happen again in time. Family & friendship is very important to me.
Thanks for posting 