I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

I think I hit my fling at just the right time - still too enmeshed to be capable of falling in love with someone else, but detached enough to not freak out over someone else seeing me naked. It helped that I chose someone who was SO completely NOT R material, but I found physically attractive to me....and I was lucky in that he was "talented,"

YES- this is where I think I am--not capable of falling in love with someone else but ready for someone to see me naked- ok that sounded bad! NOT JUST ANYONE lol!

Thank you, Donna, for sharing your story because I felt kind of "exposed" revealing my thoughts about the fling. I just KNOW that someone else (or many) have been in the same place where I am so I figured I might as well say it.

Now...about my heart fluttering...I meant PHYSICALLY not emotionally! My heart was pounding due to being nervous.

I have talked to him PART 1- he is with his kids( they were not in the same room!)and was telling me (summarized) about why he started thinking about how he should resolve things with his exG. That he had a great time on both of our dates but her family called him the next day and that her mom said she has always had these anger issues. I still can't tell what he "wants" so to speak...he said he promised his kids a night walk so he was going to do that and then call me back later.

BUT he did want to know about my date and I didn't share tooo much (I AM smarter than I probably come across on here, lol!) but I said that I know it was was rude to text him while I was on a date with someone else. I explained that it was impulsive and induced by alcohol yet I meant what I said. He said that he knew from our conversations and dates that I wasn't a rude person and he found the texts amusing so he didn't think less of me at all. PHEW!

Well we will be talking more here in a few minutes...but he did say he thinks internet dating is for "hooking up" and that you should meet people face to face.

Yeah. Well I will be debating that with him. Blind dates from people you know VS. internet dating with profiles to scan...I had one successful blind date. I think the odds are the same!