Thanks Rob,

yes it is pursueing, and yes she has moved quickly, I also think about the first S, I filed quickly then, maybe she was freaked that she needed to file before I did. Dont Know. Yes it will be a wake up call. I think her Dad is a driving force in this as well. He is 50 something divorced and lonely. He and I dont get along, I have told him in the past he was a sh!tty father. He is enabling her by giving her money for L and probably will give her money for a place, but he wont be an endless money tree.

Again, I am trying something different bcuz the other stuff wasnt working for M. But I want everyone to know I am working on me, and the fact that I am doing different things makes me feel better about myself, I can look back and say I tried