helped put the kids to bed, W obviously got the card, which was pretty much a card that spoke of things in the past cannot be undone, the fact I reflect on problems and apologize for the hurting it caused. the end of the card says I love you and always will. She was given a single red rose and a gift card for a facial and back treatment. I gave it with no expectations, a little worried she was going to flip out about the cost, or say something like dont do things like that. Neither happened. She looked very tired, she was lying on the bed with our D falling asleep on her chest. She looked at me and said she is asleep. I walked over and picked our D up rocked her a bit and laid her down in her bed. W looked at me while I did this, got up and went in her room.
I finally have my laptop back and can type and journal from bed. I did not say anything about the gift, and I will not bring it up, again no expectations.
I tried something different, against Robx's advice which is probably why he isnt posting on my thread anymore Our S pciked up the rose and said "mommy where did you get this from'? W says Daddy gave it to mommy.
So for now nothing really changed, still have time on my side.
Bro, you are my "brutha from anutha mutha", I wouldn't abandon you because you aren't listening to my advice, my advice is given freely without a requirement for you to do anything other than read it and consider it.
I have seriously been busy at work, after work and sick as a dog, bronchitis and these antibiotics ain't doing a damn thing, I cough so hard my head/brain hurts after a while.
I haven't left you, I'm still here, just more active on some days when I'm feeling better.
As for your sitch, you're doing ok and like I've said in the past, you can handle it. We had a feeling that she was fishing for stuff to possibly use against you in a divorce filing, the fact that she filed a couple weeks after asking you to leave suggests that this was in motion for some time now, filing for divorce and getting you served within 1-2 weeks is pretty darn fast for legal proceedings which leads me to believe it was probably filed more than a few weeks ago.
Keep doing what you're doing as for you are concerned, take care of yourself and your kids, be the best person you can be for you first and your kids second, don't worry about your wife. You have gone through this before with your first separation and you have given her a wake up call as far as the house is concerned. Her working 2 jobs and having joint custody is going to prove to be a lot more work than she is anticipating plus now she has deal with the consequences of her decisions, she wants to divorce and with the looming spectre of the house issue, she'll have to find a place she can afford for herself and for the kids (and you will also).
The gift purchase is pursuing, you know it, that's why you're questioning it yourself but switching things up every now & then can't be a bad thing but I still consider it pursuing. She filed for divorce against you and you bought her gifts, that's like rewarding someone for bad behavior and that's something I don't do but I can't force anyone to adopt my views, just maybe think about it a little next time.
Have a good night, we'll talk to you guys tomorrow, for now, I'm pooped, long day at work and my chest and head are killing me ;-)
