IB I think they do know deep inside the destruction and damage and hurt they are causing. I just think they are hurting themselves or soul searching and need to go through it before they can come out.

What I have read is that if they marry ow that it is a very small percentage that actually survive that marriage. I am sure they will go on and repeat history with the ow too.

They are searching, but don't know for what and then they come to realize gee it was all in front of me all this time. Ha Ha!

Don't worry about the timeline, each situation is different anyway. Keep focused on you and kids. It is the only way to stay sane.


Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"