2, Truegritter and seeking answers have excellent advice! Powerful too! The one thing I think all DBers sometime forget is than in putting MWD's practices into play is that true DBing I'd working on ourselves... GAL, 180s, all of it, is to make us LBS stronger, more independent, confident, and content within ourselves. In the process of doing so, we not only becoime the most fabulous version of ourselves, but we learn to realize we deserve more from our spouses or M and also we get to sit back, look at perhaps the ways we've handled situations in our M and learn from them and grow. In the end it is not up to us if our WAS will return, but for us its a win/win situation! We are happier with our own being, and have a life of our own! And we learn that another human doesn't make our life better. If they do come back, we still are fabulous and our S's wil notice it and love us all the more for it!
Yes! Start from scratch. Its hard to remove WAS when doing this but start and you'll soon see that YOU are the most important person right now and your little girls! I read your reasons for wanting a boy, but from my experience, it doesn't make one bit a difference.
Detach yourself from H for now! Work on you! And start dreaming a lbeautiful life for your family!
I know I know... Easier said than done. Believe me I know. But try. Because you deserve it! You deserve happiness. We all do. And we are the only ones who can make that happen for ourselves.
and our S's wil notice it and love us all the more for it!
