Kerry - I hope you weren't pointing out that your W and her OM are an example of a huge age difference marriage that "works"? Heavens, they've only been married less than a year, right? I would bet money that he will end up dead before their relationship ever has a chance to find out what will really happen between them. In other words, yuck - they are not an example (in my book). How are you anyway? Do you have a current thread still?
And Steady - no problem, I know you weren't disagreeing. And I agree that all points of view are helpful, even if not at first. It is always helpful to at least hear a different point of view, even if at first when you hear it, it doesn't seem to apply to you.
To CD - when I posted to you, I was making an educated guess about your wife and her feelings and thoughts, both now and in the future. I still believe that even if you were to reconcile, she will eventually leave again. Her immature behavior now will likely follow her throughout her life. Some immature women gravitate toward older men, but usually only for a given amount of time. Then they gravitate toward younger and younger men. Eventually, these women end up old, still chasing younger men, although not really cougars, just still immature. Not saying your wife is one of these, but she does have the symptoms.
