Thanks for your good wishes, Wii. Kat - you're right - my other children are both in their 20s and I don't ask them about visitation. They arrange it themselves. Ashley still tries to see her dad but it is down to once a month or 6 weeks. Brandon sees his dad about 4 times a year and that includes Christmas and his birthday. I give my kids credit because it is THEM who makes the arrangements NOT Chuck. And he sees them less because they refuse to have anything to do with maggot.
Visitation with Ryan is now on an every other week for one hour basis and I do not allow him to reschedule if he cancels. Not to be mean - but he was doing it all the time. If Ryan is deemed to not be well enough to see his dad - the nurse lets him know and I do allow a rescheduling if Chuck wants it. Currently he picks up Ryan in the driveway and I have the nurse take him out there and bring him in. I will not allow Chuck into my house. Let's not forget that he was abusive and has difficulty controlling his anger. I will never be subjected to that again.
My hope is that when I move here - Chuck can meet Ryan and the nurse in town (20 min from here) as I don't even want him to know where I live. It is a rural area and I need to feel safe. Silly, perhaps, but it took me YEARS to feel safe here alone and stop worrying that he was going to come after me.
Please don't think that I am being overly dramatic. The history is - Chuck was arrested here for a DUI and we split that day. He told the cops he was going to kill me. They advised me to leave him in jail - not to pick him up because they would not be able to respond quickly enough to the domestic call they WOULD be getting from me that night. SCARY!!!! And I knew nothing about the affair but later my cottage neighbours confirmed that he had brought maggot here before and after that time. YUCK! UGH - she slept in my bed.
