Hey pinhead, Stay strong who knows what can happen. A good mood is great even thought it's very tough sometimes keep your head up. Remember no one can take our hope away even if everyone says to move on or it's done. well talk later Hope
Got home last night, and the W was upset that she had cooked dinner and I was going to go have pizza with my sister's husband. I cancelled that and stayed and ate spaghetti with the family. She was really cold/hostile until she realized I had eaten all my dinner. She thinks I hate her cooking.
I was super happy and upbeat, making jokes with our Ds and just having a fun dinner. She was still edgy when we took our oldest D to her Bible class. There she started to relax. I was playing with our pastor's nephew, and that was funny; it also showed my ease with kids that she's always liked. She had enjoyed the music in the car, and did so again on the way home, singing along with my daughters.
When we got home, we readied the girls for bed, and as soon as they were tucked in, she went straight to bed with a book.
I went into the bedroom, changed into my workout clothes and said I was off to the gym. She didn't say anything, just looked at me. Came home about an hour later and she was asleep.
I'll chalk this up as a win. I was (still am) in a great mood. I got a great meal, a good work out, and some time with my daughters. The wife relaxed despite wanting to stay in a shitty mood; she had sent me a lot of emails about how "I wouldn't like her spaghetti anyways" that showed some negativity.
Wow, this new counselor is worlds better than my first MC. Makes me angry about the damage the first MC did. Oh well, can't unring that bell.
He basically agreed with the entire DR strategy, with one exception; he said in my W's case, it's very important that she understands how I feel about her; that she's special and I want to work with her on our R. Just once, don't hammer her over the head. But make sure she knows.
I think I've done that. It was just very interesting talking with him. It almost felt like I was talking to Coach! He said that my W wants to be pursued, wants lots of attention/affection. But is just too scared to accept it now; I need to be patient, drop the rope, be strong/confident/kind leader of our family.
Came home and W was making French toast and asked mr if I wanted some. Said yes to her surprise. Then I said I was thinking of going to the gym after the girls went to bed, but instead I wanted to watch a movie with her if she wasn't too tired. She said yes. Then she mentioned what we should doabout giving up our dog.
Had a fun dinner, lots of smiles, laughs and smalltalk.
Yeah, I felt really confident in asking her about the movie. And she responded really well. Baby steps... I do worry about falling into the "friend" pit though.
