CD - thanks for responding, and for (hopefully) not taking too hard what I had said.
Steady - of course you are right, your point is 100% valid. None of us know how we will feel or think in the future. We are all basically at risk of the 50/50 issue, as you said. Also as you said, we don't know that Mrs. CD left because of age or if it was even a factor in her walking away (as CD hasn't even mentioned her ever saying anything about this, that I recall from his posts).
I made my comments based purely on my own "knowledge" on the matter, which is very subjective and I can't point to any data. But here is the basis of my "knowledge": I am addicted to relationship websites, and DB is only one of them. Other relationship websites I frequent are about building great marriages, dating, men/women communication issues, "the rules" (a chick dating thing), and I even try to get in on some men's websites, to see what they are thinking and doing.
Over the years, I have read about literally 1,000's of relationships, marriages, divorces, affairs, dates, getting dumped, one night stands, on and on...you name it, I've read about it, many times over.
When you've read about that many people's personal experiences, you begin to see patterns.
One of the patterns I've seen is that sincere, honest, but older men who marry younger women (ie: not older men that typically chase younger women just for the thrill of it, but rather, men who sincerely want a happy marriage with a woman and end up with a younger one) very frequently get dumped. It is just a pattern I've seen over and over. There are many other patterns, and we can't ever predict what will happen - as you are saying. I don't want to squash CD's hopes at all, of course. But ... it is still worth noting the pattern, as it is very prevalent.
As you said...there are no guarantees....and I hope for CD's sake that the pattern I've mentioned does not apply to him, and that he can end up happy after all of this, no matter what happens to his marriage, either way, I wish you the best, CD.
