Wow!! I LOVE this, this is exactly why I stand, even though my husband reminded me last week he definitely is 100% done.
I'm sure you're familiar with believe non of what they say and only 1/2 of what they do! The important thing is to not react when he says this. If you can't avoid it, validate with something like "I'm sorry you feel that way" and leave it at that.
Originally Posted By: 2gthrButApart
.... We have a gym "date" this saturday..Baby steps right? Although he says I always get my hopes up when he's just trying to be civil for the kids. BS?? I don't know.
Exactly! You don't know. And can't know. My only caution here would be to make sure that he's not right. Do you have expectations surrounding these outings? If so ... stop. You're only setting YOURSELF up for a fall. Your expectations are not his fault or his responsibility. Keep it casual, enjoy it for what it is ... two friends hanging out ... for now. The future is yet to be written ....
Originally Posted By: 2gthrButApart
But I can't throw away 14 yrs just like that, not with 2 daughters and an angel on the way.
Standing will teach you more about yourself than you ever thought possible if you choose to turn inwards during this time. You will discover yourself, your core ... and peace.
Good luck ... and thanks for dropping by
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
