"Esox, in my case neglect is one of the things she claims, but also told me to stop being nice, don't do anything sweet, no compliments, etc. So what is one to do?"
Ok. Then treat her as you would a friend. Listen to her when she talks to you. Don't try to solve her problems if she presents one, just listen.
As pinhead said, pay attention to her. Be fully there when you do happen to spend time together. Don't try to hug her, or get in relationship talks either.
Look carefully at what hasn't worked for you and stop doing those things.
I'm a man . . . But I can change . . . If I have to . . . I guess . . .
