Yes Allan, QuickSilver264's esteem and head seem to be fully intact. I still recall how quickly this wayward accelerated into her activities, I made a note of thats how quickly things occur.
I believe QuickSilver264 is going to be better off than before, and while we don't want to say that it was the result of a divorce or pending divorce, without resources like these - many of us would have been damaged for years, taking a very long time or never restoring parts of self.
QS I've been thinking and you may have dodged a bullet missing that job offer... if the income was substantial your wife may have gone to her attourney and tried to go after it...
You would likley do better to get a new job after your divorce is final and everything is agreed on... no?
And to top it off, she checked my Facebook profile twice last night. But she has been messaging people and telling them how very excited she is about her new apartment. I think she genuinely is because it represents her "freedom".
She also thinks that I'm not prepared to take over the utilities come her move out day. What a surprise that will be for her because I already have EVERYTHING set up ready to go.
What is sad is that her mom is supporting her and is happy for her about getting a new apartment and "roommate". She has NO CLUE what is about to happen.
I am also thinking about changing the locks so she can't get back in after moving day. She has to pay half the mortgage, but who says she is allowed back in my house?
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
She also thinks that I'm not prepared to take over the utilities come her move out day. What a surprise that will be for her because I already have EVERYTHING set up ready to go.
Changign the locks is a legal issue, you would have to consult the lawyer on that one. if she does own the property wtih you in your state you may not have the legal right to lock her out
Changing the locks is a security issue. Prowlers, what ever in the neighborhood. Of course can't keep wifey from getting new set of keys probably but oops, forgot to give them to her. Just make her force the issue and then give them to her and then change them again!! It's all games.
Well my intel tells me she is having a process server come by the house tomorrow morning. She wasn't patient enough for me to respond in my own time, so she asked her lawyer to re-serve me to make sure. Seriously?
I have 2 choices:
1) Be there and have my wife let the dude in and have her watch me get re-served.
2) Dodge the server tomorrow and then potentially get served at work.
I don't think I want her to see my get served, but then again I can act like I really don't care and just wonder why I got served AGAIN.
The woman is sooooo smug and upbeat about all this. Even her mom is joining in on it. Gotta stay in the left brain here.
They must think I am a complete nutjob or something, like I am just avoiding the inevitable. I mean this week I have been out EVERY night doing stuff, and I have not spoken ONE word to her at all.
Again, gotta stay in the left brain here, but all I have ever see her be is happy and upbeat.
All in all this sucks, but I am getting so much better at all this, and working on me.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
She may be smug and full of herself NOW, but when hot guy #3 gets creeped out by her overtures and possessiveness after they move in together and he moves right back out and leaves her paying the full rent, it's not going to be so fun anymore.
I went to the gym this morning, and then ran a few errands because I knew what time the server was coming. I got home 30 min later than the server was supposed to be there, and my wife had left.
But apparently, the server saw me drive by a connecting road, and let my wife know. I saw my wife's car was still there, and didn't want to go in. and kept driving. So 10 min after I then got home my wife had pulled in with the server.
She came in the door and I said to her "Your server friend was supposed to be here 35 min ago". The look on her face was PRICELESS.
I then said to the server "You're late. I was going to call you and tell you to meet me somewhere while I was out. Your number is XXX-XXX-XXXX" The look on their face was PRICELESS too. I don't think they are used to dealing with equally or better matched people. I was calm, cool and collected, and had a smile on my face.
So I made one tactical mistake, and my wife ended up being there when I got the paperwork. It was just pure DUMB LUCK that they saw my car on the parallel street, as I ran a tactical avoidance pattern when looking at my house driveway.
My wife and the server then ended up talking outside for another 10 min, probably wondering just how I would know such information.
Still, my wife got what she wanted, to see me served. But I played poker right there with her, and I'm curious to see just how she spins this one to friends and family.
I'm also wondering if I now compromised my law enforcement contact, as I am sure the serving agency and her lawyer are going to demand just how I knew.
All in all after everyone left, my emotions just flooded in, and the bottom of my stomach dropped out and hasn't returned. Yeah, this all SUCKED big time, but I feel like I did exactly the right thing, and showed those two just who they were dealing with.
Last edited by Quicksilver264; 08/06/1001:26 PM.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
