So I'm driving back from the Dr. with my D6 when she asks me, out of the blue "when are you and Daddy going to take care of us at the same time again?". I answered "I don't think we are sweetie". She of course asks "Why?"
Nice. I've been asking stbxH for a time we could talk to them for weeks and he keeps putting it off because he doesn't have a place yet. He says he wants to be able to show them where they're going to be spending 1/2 their time before he explains he's moving out. So, what I WANTED to say to her was "Daddy decided he didn't want our marriage or our family anymore" (and yep, that's anger, I see it).
What I ACTUALLY said was "we both love you guys very much and right now this is just the way it's working out. It's grown up stuff that you guys don't need to worry about, just know that we both, mommy and daddy, love you guys VERY much."
She thought about it for a minute, then asked (prompted by the fact that today is my sister and BILs anniversary) what stbxH and I would be doing for our anniversary (later this month). I replied "probably nothing". She, of course, asks "Why?". And I answer "mommy and daddy are doing things on our own right now, instead of together." She says "oh, Ok."
So I called stbxH and told him about the convo and he's finally agreed that we'll talk to them when he gets back from his vacation. He's gone for a week, and has offered to give me a solid week too (I'm thinking ROADTRIP!) ... other than that we're keeping the regular schedule for August.
So, other than that, things are good! I'm finally on vacation ... whooooo hooooooo! 6 weeks off to enjoy my kids and hopefully get my house in order for my new beginning in the fall when he moves out. I really should take pics and post them on the alt ... the house is so disorganized and messy and dirty ... it's been exhausting to come home to it after 3 days away each week. I'm really hoping to use this time for a fresh start.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
