I don't have time to highlight them all, as I'm a little buried at work and have to get out of here a little early this evening (gotta do the "Mr. Mom" thing so I can have my 'gar later!), but there's an AWFUL lot of "mind-reading" in your post.
Go back and re-read it. I counted maybe five or six places, at least. Mind-reading is a big DB no-no; you do NOT know what your wife is thinking or feeling at any given moment, and let's face it, if our INSTINCTS were worth a crap, none of us would've ever FOUND ourselves here!
Why do you think she's so opposed to transparency? Is she hiding something?
