Whoaaa... I need to catch up here! Wow, a few busy days with school and concentrating on my own sitch and now I'm lost in this philosophical battle.
I guess I've been more of a hybrid person too, between the Tough Love/Affair Busting approach. Of course, that's mainly because I could prove no affair and yet I felt something was not quite right.
I agree, CD, it's hard to know which approach to take when, esp. when both are self-respecting and seem right. In my case, I just try to evaluate each interaction/decision and ask, "What's the self-respecting thing to do here," and go with it. Allen has helped me TREMENDOUSLY. The weekend retreat was more of a hybrid approach too, I believe. Each scenerio is different, that's for sure.
I do believe that once you go the Letting Go route you really can't go back. Well, if the WAS decides to want back in, then that's the only case.
