I agree about the MC/IC and hearing both sides being necessary for even just IC. If he goes to the same person I was going to, she will know the entire story, of course. My frustration with him not wanting to go at all is what led me to the New Beginnings weekend. I wish they had a program in place where someone from there was available for counseling. I think I will contact them and see if they have any referrals.
Truly, my FT was fine for just me trying to work through personal stuff but I don't know that she is equipped to handle this crisis. Well, I honestly think she would be if H were committed to the M and we just needed help in hammering out issues. I don't think she is equipped to handle GETTING H committed to the M. That's where I see the biggest problem with most MC, actually. That's why we are all turning to the likes of DB coaches and such. Who knows - maybe it would just be best for me to contact a DB coach, lol.
Edited to add....I don't really think I need one because I've got someone who offers the most practical help one could ask for!
