I really don't like FT's who just run their agenda and don't even tell you where they are trying to go wtih it... It's like throwing people in teh back seat and driving without any communication...
The irony is these people are supposed to be experts at managing relationships and here she is doing this stuff and you aren't fully in the loop on her goals at all... What the heck is that all about?
In my opinion the one of the first things the FT should address is
a. Attack Abuse - establish safe boundaries for both spouses immeidately b. Attack infideility c. Attack Divorce
Once she's run that business through the conflict should at least be on a fair playing field as no one's cheating, no one's divorceing, and no one's abusing anyone... NOW you can deal with problems...
But if your H's talking divorce and looking at apartments this FT is NOT doing her job in my opinion...
Well, remember.... he only went the one time and chose not to go back, so I have to give her a little benefit of the doubt here. She and I both thought he would be returning but then he didn't want to.
That's why I had the question about MC. What if he only wants to go back to counseling for IC and not for the M? I guess it counts for something. Believe me, he has some stuff to sort through he has not dealt with, obviously! I almost feel like he needs that before MC will do any good.
(I'm still going through all the other posts.... lots of good stuff!) :-)
