I don't want to mislead anyone into thinking that playing PP with XH was a "date". XH used to always play racquetball 3 times/wk and when his knee arthritis became so bad that he couldn't, he really missed doing that. This was just a situation of trial and error with us. It is something that we never did before (XH played PP a lot in college) and found that we enjoy doing. The first time we played, this is the way it happened: XH asked me to do a favor for him. I said "Yes, I'll do this for you if you help me with a couple repairs on the house AND practice PP with me once. I've been taking lessons and I can't find anyone to practice with me". XH very easily agreed........and the PP playing has turned into an ongoing thread and some very fun recreation shared between us. When I asked XH to practice with me I wasn't asking him on a "date". I really WAS just looking for anyone to play with, although I will admit that this was a trial balloon to see if it had the potential to develop into something else. I think he could sense my true motivation (it wasn't a date) when this started.
Hang in there pie. If you are seeing glimpses of the old H, that is a good thing. I didn't see the old H for a very long time.
