Hiya, Burt! I was wondering how you were doing, and actually went to "bump" your thread yesterday, when I saw that it'd been locked.
Yeah, I know what you mean about the note. I am SO MUCH LIKE YOU -- like to be the "pleaser"/"rescuer" type, and used to send lots of those little encouraging things to my wife. I still do -- verbally -- sometimes, but probably 75% less than I used to. You can say the whole "You shouldn't do it because you expect a response; you say it because you feel it's the right thing to do!" thing ALL YOU WANT, but let's face it, when you don't get your needs for validation (or other needs) met in return, you finally give up. Basic stimulus-and-response theory ... right?
