Blindsided, Just served with papers!

[CPCajun]

Rule number 1. Stop doing what doesnt work. You are the only real expert of your sitch. Keep on trying different things until they work.

W told me she loves me and has felt neglected during our whole M. So by going totally dark and going along with it seems to be putting the nail in the coffin.

Exactally. From what I read above, your sitch is close to the same as mine, minus a few.

I found that going dark unless It was needed, didn't work. What I did find is that validating her feelings did. Listen closely to what she has to say. Try not to put the focus on yourself when you do talk, but see what she is missing in the M.
Next start doing your 180's.

As for the D papers, that is when you let the L handle it. When I went to find a L, I told him that you look out and protect me and I will work on my M. Then you do that. Don't focus on the papers.Actually they gave me the incentive to work harder on my 180 and GAL.