CG, what I was trying to say is I don't want just a fling. When I was in my 20s there were some that were just dating for fun. When you were younger didn't you date some guys just because you wanted to with no long-term future in mind?

I don't want my life to get any more complicated than it is. Once the D is final, I'd love to start going on dates, but only with women I could see something down the road with.

I'm indentifying them by age because -- it seems easy -- and I'm not really courting any of them right now.

The thing about 37 is I have known her a long time and we would not work out. Smoking is No. 1. STBXW smoked when I met her, but she knew I didn't want to date smokers so she hid it for three months and then quit after we got married.

She also has a lot of drama with ex-boyfriends and family. She's not very stable and I wouldn't want to submit my girls to that.

So right now it's just an occasional phone call, see each other out once a month thing.


Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11
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