He wants to feel loved, wanted and desired by his woman. Stop calling him logical. He is a man first, engineer second.
This is very true. We'd had a SSM for a long, long time. It was not all my fault but blame was dumped on me - just as our bad R was dumped on me. I acknowledged my role in these things, validated H's actions, agreed I didn't want to continue the old R, and after he had softened a big - for ex he didn't pull away if I touched his shoulder) - I intiated sx. The first couple times it was all about him. I can now say it has become very mutual. It was a turning point for H I believe.
Though we both felt unloved, unwanted, unappreciated, my self esteem is much better than his so it affected me differently. I owned my issues and have tried to correct them and I'm seeing results. H was not able/willing to make any changes and went to a lawyer out of a desperate need to stop hurting. I get that.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
